Wednesday, February 20, 2008

What do you do....

With a terrible TWO?

I am so beyond frustrated, right now, all I can do is blog. My child has lost all ability to hear me when I am telling him to do AN-Y-THING. Whether it's me telling his "yes, you may do that," or "noway, son," he just DOES NOT hear it! Ok, ok, I know he hears me but he's not listening to one word I say, and I am about ready to explode. Yes, I know this is normal. Yes, I know he's only two. But I am telling you, he knows what he's doing and he knows what's right and what's wrong. This child is s-m-a-r-t, and that is what's scary.

He knows exactly how to do something so that it is JUST different enough, to not be what I told him not to do. He'll wait 20 minutes, after I put him down for a nap, get up and then try to convince me that he slept. He moves food around, on his plate, to make it look like he ate some of his food.

According to my MIL- he is his father. Ah yes, the big DH was T R O U B L E ! And he was a troublemaker until he was 22 or 23... I'm not kidding. I married him knowing he was trouble. WHAT was I thinking? (just kidding, love bug, I love you!)

So, what's frustrating the most is I feel like I am a good parent. I have fun, yes. But, I know when not to have fun. I don't give in when he's being punished. He doesn't get things every time we go shopping. I am strict. I try to remain calm (TRY). I am consistent. I lovingly punish him (we hug and make-up after time out, etc.). So what else can I do? beat him? lock him in his room? BAH!

I just feel drained. And being sick on top of it doesn't help one bit! sigh.

Thanks for letting me rant! I feel much better. Going to retrieve the prisoner from his jail cell.

21 comments:

Law Student Hot Mama said...

When I was at an amusement park once, I saw some kid who had on a shirt that said "It seemed like a good idea at the time." Buy the shirt! Make him wear it!

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Amy said...

Oh twos are tough but I always had a harder time with threes! Hang in there girl!

Blueberry and the Bean said...

oh, what amy said! my sister and mother swear that three is worse and i'm starting to believe it because the farther we get into year two the worse it has gotten.... of course i'm pregnant so my fuse is exceptionally short these days!

you aren't alone my dear! :) hugs!

buckeyemomma said...

The fun part for me is watching YOU go through what I did 8 years ago! LOL But I agree three IS worse!
And ya know it'll pass, but I know at the time its SOO frustrating. Its funny how different a girl's two's are, my girl's two's anyway..Hang in there sis, you'll make it. We'll just pray he's not as much trouble as his daddy was! :) I Love ya Andy! :) lol

Maggie said...

Isn't it amazing that anyone ever survives to adulthood?!

kim said...

I totally remember Lauren going through that... Just keep doing what you do, this too shall pass.

One Scrappy Chicklet said...

I do not envy you. I am so glad the terrible two's are behind us. Hang in there girly, this to shall pass.

Tami

tricki_nicki said...

Two's are hard (but fun too, right?). The hardest part is not realizing that so much of what you're going through will be completely non-issue in a matter of time. Just keep thinking to yourself, "It's just a phase, it's just a phase." It's hard to be in the trenches, but it goes away, I promise!

Mark and Rebekah said...

Don't you just love having a kid smart enough to figure out the loopholes?? That was so me. My parents had to get super specific (you are grounded from this time on this day from doing these things. . .)

You'll learn to think like a lawyer :)

Fire Hunt said...

Sorry to tell you that 3 is alot harder. Know that 4 is not so bad. God needs to give us a book.

Bradley's Mom said...

Oh........this all sounds so very normal to me!!

Just one of those stages you have to go through to raise them!!

You'll survive! Keep your chin up!

xoxo
Linda

Stacy said...

Rant away! I know it can be really frustrating. Kai was very tough as a 1.5 - 3 year old and Anya is a challenge but not as hard as my boy. They get through it and eventually get better. Hang in there!

Kathryn said...

Duct tape him to a chair. ;)

Elaine A. said...

I like Kathryn's idea above... No, really, I am having the same troubles with my almost 4-year old so I can't really give you any tips, just join in with your ranting!! ; )

Christina said...

Oh honey, I'm right there with you! It's like you've read my thoughts, we are dealing with exactly the same things. And it's fristrating. VERY furstrating.

But I had to laugh at this:

"I am so beyond frustrated, right now, all I can do is blog."

Us crazy mommy bloggers. ;o)

Super Kristen said...

It sounds normal because I've seen several freinds go through the same thing... but I know when I finally have a kid, I'll probably be ranting about it in my blog and you'll be the one saying "KRISTEN, IT'S NORMAL! HAHAHA" lol. Hang in there.

Maya said...

Oh dear...take good notes so you can help me when I get there!

The Egel Nest said...

You know...this would be an excellent topic to put in the form of a question and email "Dear Brad the Stay at Home Dad"

lol

Good rant :)


Bradley
The Egel Nest

Golightly said...

I'm with ya, too. I like Kathryn's idea. I tried duct taping Harrison to the chair today.

Just kidding.

Again, wish I had advice, but H. is about to turn 3 and he has been practicing his selective listening skills with great enthusiasm lately! Be afraid, be VERY afraid...

Again, just kidding.

Arizaphale said...

I don't know how I missed THIS one either??? I guess it's all passed now but the other girls said it all. You are doing all the right things. He is just testing his boundaries. Being sick is half the problem.